Dealing with a teenage child
Teenage is a difficult time in the lives of most individuals. With the onset of adolescence, an individual experiences both physical and mental changes. Your child will become moody and seem irritated. You may feel that s/he is suppressing his/her problems from you. Teenage is the time when a person’s value system is shaped based on his/her experience with friends and family. It is also the time when misunderstandings arise between children and their parents and it often leads to tiffs and fights.
Most parents nowadays are working professionals and hence they cannot devote much time to their children. To make up for the lost time, parents gift their children with expensive gadgets and gizmos that s/he does not need. Through these expensive electronic devices, children get exposed to a lot of content that could potentially harm their value system. Most teenagers nowadays are on Facebook, Twitter and other social networking websites. These websites turn out to be the biggest zones for cyberbullying for teens. A hate comment or photograph can send your child into depression.
The problem with children of this age is that they are not aware of the consequences of their actions. Before acting, they do not think things through. There is every chance that your child would be the bully instead of the victim. That situation is not much favourable either.
To help your child cope with the situation of adolescence, you need to be by his/her side at all times. Instead of taking on a parental approach, try being your child’s friend. Talk to him about his problems. Sound sincere enough to induce him/her to put forward his/her problem to you. You may be taken aback or flabbergasted by the problem presented to you, but you should not express your surprise. As the great poet Rabindranath Tagore had written, a child should not be limited to his parents’ learning because he was born in another time. Trends change over generations. Something that may seem normal to you, may be absurd to your child and vice versa. Therefore, both of you need to communicate and come to a truce about the way you should go about solving a problem. Social networking websites were not there in your times but they are there in your child’s time and hence you should put in finding out what it is all about, its perils and ways to tackle the issues that arise out of it.
You should definitely be a friend to your child no matter what the problem is. However, maintain a fine line between parenting and friendship. Do not be over friendly to your child as some children find “peerenting” behaviour awkward and embarrassing. For example, it is good to be cordial to your child’s friends but not hanging out with them. Being overly cautious about your child, intercepting his/her emails or social networking site accounts may not be the best solution. Instead, invest time in building a strong foundation between you and your child so that you do not feel the need to spy on him through various sources. Spend an hour or two talking to your child every day. That way you will be bonding well with him.
You should also make an effort to know who your child’s friends are. It is around this time that children start going out with their friends alone and hence knowing the background of your child’s friends such as home address, telephone number etc. is important. It is also important to inform your child of the perils of meeting people online or chatting on various forums. Children are vulnerable and predators can extract the kind of information that they want to from your child through various twisted questions.
If your child wants to go for a movie or lunch out with your friends, opt to drop him/her off at the mall and wait till his/her friends meet him/her up. That way, you would be able to keep a track of who your child was out with. If it is possible, you should strike up acquaintances with the parents of your child’s friends. You need not keep regular contact with them but at least maintain relations strong enough so that you can contact them in case of emergencies.
Lastly, do not pressurize your child into conforming to a certain code of conduct. S/he is a teenager and is entitled to his or her own experiences. You cannot fight all his/her battles. However, if your child does commit a mistake, do not weigh it down on him/her. Express your disappointment to him/her but at the same time let him know that you do not hold it against him/her. Remember, that your teenager would look up to you the more you support him/her rather than weigh down on him/her.
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